A final thought: The idea of the mask matters quite a bit in this. The superhero movies that dominate our box offices are all about mild-mannered secret identities and the power that comes with donning a facial covering. We live each day through digital masks: screen names, online personas, Twitter feeds, Facebook posts, and on and on, each an attempt to show the world the face we want to be, rather than the face we fear we have. The gunman in Aurora wore a mask, too, to protect himself from his own tear gas, or to avoid being seen, or to play to the pathetic fantasy in his head that he was Doom personified instead of an angry 24 year old.
In reality — real reality, maybe you’ve forgotten? — no one wears a mask. Someday a lot of people are going to have to face up to that.
Was right there with him until about the last quarter.
MANY people wear masks. They’re just not literal ones. That’s part of what so freaks me out about Facebook– the founder wants to shred all the masks, no realizing that will force people to live inside of only one.
There are some things you can’t do when you’re being “so and so’s daughter.” There are some things you can’t do when you’re being “computer repair technician #24.” There are some things you can’t do when you’re being “mom.” There are somethings you can’t do when you’re being “random person shopping at the store.”
There are some things you must do in all those masks.
It’s part of acting like an adult– you realize some things aren’t fitting in a situation, and shape your behavior accordingly.