I will let that voice speak to you now. Here is Brian. Brian is a son of a surrogate impregnated by his bio father’s sperm. These are Brian’s words (typos and all) about his reality:
How do you think we feel about being created specifically to be given away? You should all know that kids form their own opinions. I don’t care why my parents or my mother did this. It looks to me like I was bought and sold. You can dress it up with as many pretty words as you want. You can wrap it up in a silk freaking scarf. You can pretend these are not your children. You can say it is a gift or you donated your egg to the IM. But the fact is that someone has contracted you to make a child, give up your parental rights and hand over your flesh and blood child. I dont care if you think I am not your child, what about what I think! Maybe I know I am your child.When you exchange somehing for oney it is called a commodity. Babies are not commodities. Babies are human beings. How do you think this makes us feel to know that there was money exchanged for us?
Go read the rest, please.
I can’t believe I didn’t think of it before… I was rather uncool with the whole “surrogacy” thing because it was pretty obviously dehumanizing–to the mother. Didn’t even get to the mental point where it’s buying a kid, to be delivered about X day. Didn’t need to, to be against it, but startled I hadn’t even considered that.