But if you’re a man who wants to counter your manologue tendency, try this: When you hear yourself saying, “Now, to answer your question,” ask yourself whether there was a good reason you didn’t start at exactly that point. Otherwise, these manologues may never, ever end.
If you’d paid attention to what the guy said up to that point, you might have a clue why he hadn’t started at that point.
Congratulations, you are why he spent twenty minutes laying out ground-work for the answer…and why it will be twenty five the next time, because you couldn’t be bothered to listen to what you needed to know to make the answer make sense when someone isn’t assuming that you’re a telepath that knows exactly what context they are answering in.
Next time you find yourself writing a long article about how what someone else is doing is wrong, maybe you should consider asking why they did it. Or talking to someone who isn’t exactly like you about why it may be.
This may be shocking to a sexist like yourself, but men aren’t the only ones that get caught in this junk– I am quite female, but have people like yourself complain about how prolix (good word!) my answers tend to be. And then they utterly ignore the groundwork I just spent ten minutes of painful being-the-center-of-attention* laying out and fail to grasp an incredibly simple point.
Pay attention instead of asking a question and then ignoring the response to read a freaking drink’s lable, and maybe you’ll learn something.
* I am shy. Call it “social anxiety disorder” if it makes you feel better, but I’m shy. I got a once-in-a-lifetime chance to talk to my favorite author, and mumbled out that his books were some of the most important ones I’d ever read– then blushed myself silly and hid behind my camera. People routinely ask me a layered question with a ton of assumptions, then ignore the answer for what they already want to hear. Utterly disrespectful of my time and effort.