Timely meditation on honor, and self control– which feeds into a well formed conscience.
Told you it was timely.
Plus, I’m just delighted to have a way to explain “shame vs guilt” in honor terms– shame is external honor, guilt is internal. Reality matters for the latter, other folks’ belief for the second.
I have no idea why the idea bubbled up, other than my wondering how, exactly, one would define “caddish” behavior in modern terms. Those of us who have read books written during Victorian times, or patterned off of those, recognize a cad when we see one in action. “Sleezy” doesn’t work, because caddish behavior did not necessarily imply that the man’s manner was unctuous, slimy, and somewhat dirty. There’s a sense of disrespect at a fundamental level by the cad for his cad’s victim, and an unwillingness to accept responsibility. Like another famous definition, those who read/imprinted on Victorian-era books “know it when I see it.”
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